To Sub or not to Sub?

Is it just the power and control, or something very erotic and arousing in asking someone to submit to your pleasure, knowing that they will obey your every command? Does it excite you to test someone’s pain and pleasure threshold while they are bound hand and foot and cannot escape?

How dominant are you? Or is submission more your role?

A friend recently surprised me by saying that she enjoyed being tied up during sex. I had never discussed this with her before and had assumed she was not the type of person to submit to another. This prompted my curiosity as to whether I knew more people who indulged in this form of role-play.

Domination and submission cover a diverse range of activities and books such as ‘The Story of O’ and ‘The Story of M’ illustrate the extremes that this practice can take.

Have you ever been instructed to wear no knickers and a see-through skirt when going shopping? Looking for screws in a DIY store could take on a whole new meaning.

A past boyfriend of mine was eager to explore how submissive I was, leading to me being tied up very early on in our relationship. Needless to say this took a bit of trust and a safe word was used.

So how far will you go? Or is your submission/domination restricted to your fantasies?

Have you given instructions for someone to remove their underwear in a bar and sit naked under their skirt? Does this turn you on? Is it arousing to know that your partner is not wearing underwear? Does it arouse you to be out and not wear any underwear?

Or would you prefer to have a slave for the day? A submissive female perhaps, wearing a short skirt with no underwear on. Available to be ‘taken’ whenever you felt like it. Ordered to pleasure you at your whim. Punished for non-compliance and rewarded for being good.

Or do you like to be tied to a beam? Legs stretched apart and left to anticipate your masters’ next caress. Or arms tied stretched over a table, blindfolded and not knowing when you are going to be penetrated next? Or perhaps you have your very own erotic dungeon complete with chains and whips.

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